Seasaw-I had the same thoughts that we would have many things in common with these unfortunate set of circumstances. I'm sorry to hear you lost your dad on the same day a year ago; but what a coincidence too!! As for what I've been doing to deal with my grief...I have been seeing a counselor and attending "The course in Miracles" meetings weekly. Plus, I just started on this forum and although I dont have a lot of time to post, it has helped immensely as well to read of others similar experiences and understand I'm not alone.
I see that you are trying to figure out a way to make some sort of contact but not make contact with your mom to deliver a piano? Did you figure out a way of "drop shipping" it yet?