Originally Posted by
Refiner 
Well, I guess even pastors can be douchebags. Also sounds like he could be getting an earful of nonsense about you separately from your AH.
Been there done that. Wasn't a pastor but same thing. I walked into a counseling session as the bad guy before I even sat down.
Once I was allowed to offer the rest of the story, My XAGF flew into a rage and stormed out of the session. 2 days later she informed she didn't like that counselor.
Welcome to alcoholism.