It's weird when you learn about these "bad" Codie behaviors & then can see them so clearly in someone else, isn't it?
My boss is Uber-Codie but she's no where near ready to see that yet. The way she grapples for control with her ACoA husband & how she is constantly adjusting for everyone's else's emotions is EXHAUSTING! It gives me the opportunity to see what Codie behavior really looks like sometimes.
It can be difficult to hold my boundaries with her without hurting her feelings, but it's necessary for me.