A nightmare he has been. I didn't realize. I rather thought it was my fault we had problems, because he always said how difficult I was. I heard it so often that I came to believe him. Also, my father was abusive and called me mean names very often, so part of me was ready to hear similar from xah...
Anyway, when this man said last night also that he would have stayed in his unhappy marriage forever, for the presumed benefit of his children, that also struck a chord. I, too, was prepared to tolerate misery from my husband who wasn't much of a husband, for the sake of everyone else in my life. Until he terrified me and the children to such a point we were traumatized.
No, it was good to talk to the fellow last night about things. It wasn't a fun date, exactly, but he was a breathe of fresh air and I appreciate the perspective he lent to my life...I think I will see him again.