This is very wise Katchie. When one of my friends pointed out to me how would I be able to enforce rules and boundaries on my son as he got older when I couldn't do that with my AH, it didn't take me long to figure out some boundaries then ENFORCE them.
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Katchie 
I remember when I complained to my therapist that my AH wouldn't correct a disrespectful son. Her response was, "so, you're expecting the king of disrespect in your home to step in and discipline a disrespectful teen?". Touche!
At some point in our minds we have to quit expecting our alcoholics to care, behave, act, make decisions like someone who isn't an addict.
I have been learning though haven't mastered this concept. If I don't expect the normal from my A then I won't be disappointed.