Originally Posted by
petals 
I just seem to think that any av is a total failure on my part for not doing it properly.
That's not what it says on the box, petals, not by a long shot. The whole idea is that the AV simply doesn't decide our actions any longer.
You are not a failure for having thoughts of drinking - the idea is that thoughts of drinking are a normal part of pleasure seeking that has gone haywire from over exposure. It is your beast that is a failure now, not you. It is a failure now because you have said so.
Every time you hear that AV, and you will, now you can look at it with ridicule. Loser. Whiner. Whinger. Jerk. I don't drink any more, ever. Now, what was I doing? Right. Onward!