new here, my daughter is the alcoholic
hi all, it is good (well ya know not so good) to be here. My story is that about 3 weeks ago my daughter told me she needed to go to rehab. She came to my house that night, stayed for about a week, seemed physically sick. She was doing so much of the calling for help that i let her do a lot of that (she is 21). then she moved back to her apartment with her boyfriend just as suddenly. i had her come over on last Saturday to hang out in a sober place. now she wants to have me over for dinner and share recipes, i don't think she is actually sober. the night she invited me for dinner is the night i found a young adult AA meeting, i found 5 and i think she lied about the one she said she went to. i called her this week and she never returned my call about her plan to find a counselor, but did call me for the beet recipe. From her brother we think her boyfriend is rationing alcohol to keep her from getting too sick. i am kicking myself that i didn't get into high gear the week she was here.
the night she called me to come over i had just returned from a 7 day silent retreat. Amazing experience. after a full day of travel and finally home she called, she moved back that night, we stayed up to 1 am, then i had to catch up at work and those are sometimes 6 am - 6 pm days. i got her good food and tried to be home, and one time her boyfriend was over i thought i smelled alcohol in a 7-11 soda cup.
i guess i am just scared to deal with this, and i am a single mother so this is on me. Her dad is in town but he is not always a nice person. she asked for help talking to him and i know i chickened out on that. it has taken me years to set those boundaries so i am not relaying things between kids and him. But she did ask for rehab and help talking to him.
as i assume it always is, there is a long history, running away to avoid counseling, lying to my face and not seeming to care when caught, finding pot and alcohol stuff and throwing it away but not knowing what to do. Basically i am in a position where i want to help, she asked for help and i don't trust a word that comes out of her mouth.
Looking forward to getting to know people and go through this journey