Don't be too hard on yourself for being depressed-- let's not forget that this IS your husband. I mean, come on. We'd be lying to ourselves if we said we NEVER got hopeful.
It really sounds like you have a good support system around you (in real life). I am glad you do. It sounds like you need to have more treats to the movies and just time to do FUN stuff.
I bet you are looking forward to gardening here in a few months.
You have the RIGHT to be depressed- just be sure to surround yourself with people who can pull you out of it.
I wouldn't mind if your AH got a lecture from dad
--but for YOUR sake and sanity- I will pray for a quiet, peaceful evening for you.