Equus - It's a very brave thing to honestly look at yourself the way you have done in counselling.
Whilst I love al-anon and continue my meetings, I have found that they reinforced the work I was doing in counselling rather than the other way round. That work was soooo powerful and so lifechanging - I guess it was real Step 4 work on a weekly basis (and I'm not really working the Steps yet). It is a shame that I have moved away because I found a counsellor that worked really well for me and I could do with verbalising some of the stuff that has happened in the past few months. So I called him yesterday and we are having a telephone session when I get back from sailing. A top-up, if you like.
You're a star.
Love
Minnie
xxx