Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
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One of the things you will learn as you spend more and more time here is the only way your AH's behavior will make sense is if you view it through the prism of addiction.
Addiction is an incredibly selfish state of existence. He is not capable of considering or empathizing with the thoughts and feelings of other people. All that matters is him, what he wants, what he needs. It doesn't faze him that he's pushing you away, and if you were to tell him he was pushing you away, he'd blame you.
In short, so long as he's in this state, he is unreachable. So the question then becomes what do you have to do in order to be sane and safe. Have you given any thought to this?