Thanks a lot for your reactions folks. I was having trouble letting go of these two things but the bottom line for me that it's best for me to let go any way I can.
I guess I needed to hear that some more, thanks
I'm very good at klinging on to confusing thoughts...and that's my issue to work on.
And NAmommy, what you said is helping me in particular. The issue is between him, his sponsor and his Higher Power. I was making it *my* issue.
I'm trying to let go as best I can and follow my own program.