Actually, that is my dilemma. I feel like I need to let her know but I'm not sure why. Perhaps part of me hopes she'll read the letter and break down into tears and get herself into rehab and become the person I always wanted her to be. Maybe I just feel like she really doesn't know and if she did, even if things weren't different I would have peace knowing that I said what I wanted to say - in a letter - without her interrupting me or telling me my memories are wrong or that it "wasn't that big of a deal". CLOSURE. Isn't that the buzz word? My therapist doesn't think CLOSURE is that necessary especially with an alcoholic. Anyone else have experience telling the alcoholic parent why you don't want to be a part of their life anymore and how that went? For those that didn't, do you feel like your parent really doesn't know why you won't talk/interact with them anymore?