Thanks for the replies y'all!
The first thing that popped into my head during this discussion was exactly what freshstart said...how can I be addicted to something I don't use.
I use the smoking example all the time. I quit a year ago. Im a non smoker, and the funny thing is that the same people who say 'once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic' would say I'm a non smoker too. Or maybe they'd say an 'ex' smoker....but the point is they wouldn't say an 'ex' alcoholic because they are always in 'pursuit' of sobriety....it's like it's always just out of reach.
Love the chess analogy, mesaman! It's a radical concept that our sobriety IS real...today, right now,...I'm not striving for this unattainable 'sober state'...I'm already sober....and we CAN and should define our own sobriety!
For my own sake I need to stop trying to make sense of illogical concepts that mainstream programs push. This person wanted me to make assumptions about the future based on my past and I wouldn't bite.