I'm not a 12 stepper or a meeting person.
I got sober alone and I would say that for me, I was ready to do the work
whereas before, I just wasn't done drinking yet.
"The work" for me wasn't meetings, but it was resisting temptatioins, building in other
interests and meaning to fill time I used to drink, being honest and journaling about my
denial and BS, and in general, embracing new habits and not engaging in old routines.
My whole life changed in that I could no longer "hang out" with my alky friends drinking
and talking alky talk. I had to face not only physical and mental withdrawals pretty much alone,
but I had to face the incredible crap that had driven the drinking all along.
Wasn't particularly easy, but neither was being a progressive alcoholic.
It was worth it, and I suppose my suggestion is that whatever route you choose
you must be "all in" and ready for serious discomfort while you stay the course and
get to the next level.
The next level, relatively stable sobriety, is actually pretty darn good.
Gotta break the habits to get there though.
Good luck and don't quit quitting--