No you are not a stick in the mud, like he says. Addicts groom the enablers!! They make them feel inferior, they are better, stronger, friendlier, better looking and everything else. Eventually we begin to believe that. When we work our program and realize what they did to us, we eventually don't believe them anymore. We get strong and question what he says and does.
No healthy person would do that to someone they love. You are much better then him!!