Good for you! Congratulations on your work so far. It's hard in the beginning, but it really sounds like you have decided that you need to be in recovery, and that's great!
As far as the in-you-face lady goes- I remember someone telling me early on to listen to people sharing in meetings and to stick with the people who had something you wanted (in other words, people you were attracted to, not people who promoted themselves to you.....). Sounds like this lady is NOT in the "attracted" category for you. That's OK. She may make a perfect sponsor for someone else but not for you. So a polite "thank you" should be all that's necessary. And try to call those people you are drawn to.
Recovery and sobriety are an "inside job" but it's also really important to ask for help. It's one of those many paradoxes of AA. And the best people to ask for help are those your intuition tells you have something to offer that is in tune with you. If you can keep going to meetings, listen, absorb as much as you can, and stay away from that first drink, things will get better.
Best of luck to you!
P