I'm going to say something that MIGHT **** you off- but that is not my intent. My intent is to offer a different perspective. So PLEASE don't think I'm judging or saying anything bad- because I'm not trying to do that.
It seems like you are holding this man hostage. I have seen that in a lot of your posts, it's always about "well he WANTED to do this, but I told him he couldn't, or he KNOWS I don't allow this or that".
I see that YOU are VERY CONTROLLING- EXTREMELY. I'm not saying you should put up with his alcoholism but maybe for the benefit of BOTH of you...you need to loosen the noose.
JB, I am not trying to hurt your feelings, so I hope you take what you want and leave the rest.
Hugs