Originally Posted by
theotherhalf 
She came clean over the weekend after the incident happened. said that she came home and found stuff in her clothes when she was packing up and decided to get high. i was pretty upset but at least a little relieved that she came clean.
The following weekend i start getting that spidey sense that something is wrong and go through her purse while she's in the shower. In it i find two dope bags. Of course she denies it and says that it was from before and she didnt know where to throw it out. Now i know that its total BS but damn is she convincing.
i get a call from her mom she saw her driving away in the guys car that she had been having a relationship and doing dope with about a year and a half ago. Im totally floored by this. Im in shock that this guy is still in the picture. I start sending him msgs and her msgs about what a ***** she is and how ****** up it is that she would do this to me. that night she proceeds to ask me if Im crazy and that she didn't leave in the car we thought she did and how im sick calling her all those names (i called her a lot of the generic names that a SO would call the other one if they caught them cheating).
The next day rolls around and now im talking to this guy about how he thought that she's been in a relationship with him and he's been doing dope with her the whole time and i proceed to send these msgs to her mom and grandma. I don't want to hear anymore that im a liar and crazy. i think that they should all know the truth about what she's doing. She's sick in the head. come to find out i saw all of her FB msgs to him and she's been telling him how much she loves him and that he should send her dope and she cant wait to get high.
I really am Sorry you are going through this. I answered your PM yesterday so felt the need to respond to your post.
It sounds like you are WAY WAY WAY too wrapped up in this situation and her affairs and need to take a HUGE step back. She might never get sober, but smothering the hell out of her and basically stalking her is neither going to get her sober or get her back for that matter (as if you want her back in this condition).
Trust me you keep heading down this road of calling her sponsor, rifling through her purse, shooting off texts to some dope head boyfriend and to her and her mom and grandma, and stalking her on facebook YOU just might be the one that ends up in a Strait Jacket in a rubber room.
I know you are trying everything you can think of, but if she wants to do dope she IS going to do dope. Also the more wrapped up you get in her sickness the sicker it will make you. If the ship is sinking grab a life raft.