My sponsor from back home used to warn me about being "dumped" on. In other words my AH would have these feelings and he is not sure what to do with them and he does not attend meetings so he comes home to "talk" to me. After he supposedly shared his "stuff" with me I would feel sad or angry but he would walk off like the weight of the world had been lifted.
She told me of course I would feel that way because he "dumped" his feelings on me and I took them, openly. It made sense to me, why should he share at a meeting if he had me to "dump" on! From that point I was very cautious about our "talks". If I felt he was dumping on me I would quickly remind him that he should share this with others that would better understand.
I might add that the "dumping" is a two way street. I try to keep that in mind when he and I talk.
Just thought I would share.
Take care!