I believe an "uncaring of self" philosophy (not to mean same as in selfless though) can be leveraged and morphed into a useful advantage when learning to live differently with alcoholism and addiction while keeping sober. The uncaring can be useful for letting go of what only has importance when one is drinking and abusing. For me, there was much to let go of because drinking was my usual go to solution before I stayed quit.
Change brings responsibility. Responsibility creates and nurtures self-preservation. Learning to initially survive without addiction abuse in play is a worthy achievement. Eventually I got past just surviving and made a good life for myself. I'm now (almost) lovable and more importantly I care and love others as I love myself. This was impossible while drinking...