Just wanted to pipe in quickly. I'm a straight woman who has a number of straight male friends. All platonic. HOWEVER, I NEVER flirt with them; I treat them as I would my brothers and make sure that if they have a wife or a girlfriend that they know me and I make it clear by how I act and behave that I am no threat and that I befriend them as well to make it clear there is nothing untoward going on. I always speak kindly of their wives and girlfriends and ask about them as I would any of my friends. I would NEVER badmouth a male friend's significant other. Too risky of an area. You can usually tell by people's behavior what's really going on.
It is possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but that doesn't sound like that's what's happening. Trust your gut.
I'm sorry that you're going through this.
And he shouldn't have to tell you he loves you--he should show you by his behavior.
Listen to your gut. I don't think you're crazy.
Hugs.
