360shoes, this is sound and wonderful advice. I know this family quite well, and will take your advice about asking them what they need. I'll also bring them some enchiladas (food is what I do
I'm feeling better. I know that a lot of this is stuff that has less to do with this event and more to do with events in my past. I've dealt with a lot of it, but as I mentioned in another post, I often get to a certain place and get stuck and retreat into drink. I'm determined not to do it this time, but very fearful too.