Thanks for posting that. I'm lingering too . . . and I like that word so much better than the one I feel, which is stuck.
For me it's a matter of figuring out the next step (since he won't make this easy and move out) while trying to assess which is better for the kids, living in a dysfunctional home with an alcoholic dad or dealing with their parents' separation/divorce and then being in their dad's custody 50% of the time.
On a positive note, my AH is angry with me for asserting and maintaining boundaries, so at least he's finally paying attention to what I'm saying. As so many of you have pointed out, nothing changes until it changes, and actions speak louder than words.