My late XAH wasn't abusive. He was more a bump on a log who didn't do anything. Anything at all. Well, except drink and make excuses. (The "I'm so exhausted" drove me batty... especially when I'd been on call for the last 30 hours on my feet...) But no, he was never abusive, well, except to himself.
But yours, yeah, that's awful. So he's gone now? Or just until he begs and pleads his way back?