Originally Posted by
Thumper 
She does sound 'high functioning' and she can probably maintain that for a long while - especially if she is married.
I will respectfully point out that if she is slamming alcohol in the car on the way home from work - control is a thing of the past.
I'm hopeful, it was a one-time thing. I'm not about to believe that it was, but I'm hopeful. I told her straight up that information and action was a game changer for how I view her drinking. She said she'll stop. And I'm afraid she'll only hide it further. I do our finances and basically "run" the household decisions, so I'm hopefully I'll be a step ahead. But if this has been going on, obviously I'm a step behind. Also, with our two kids we are mostly homebodies. I just wish I could go back in time and monitor a little bit of her intake. I might have a better idea what I'm up against.