Thank you everyone for the very thoughtful and concerned comments. I am definitely reading up and bookmarking the helpful links and stickies. I have not enabled her in anyway. And will not cover for her. If she does have an issue I will allow her to suffer the consequences, unless it involves her career. I can feel the fear in the pit of my stomach. Seems like you speak of a lot of balance between taking action, but not in a controlling and judgmental way. Hitting rock bottom before acceptance is a scary notion to think. I know her well, at least I think I do, and what I know is that she can control is as it is today, and remain high-functioning. But I'm very scared for the future. Fearful that my actions will just promote more hiding and secrecy.