Originally Posted by
Dee74 
As hard as this is for you, it might be even harder for her if she can't understand where you're coming from with the recovery stuff.
Yes, give yourself a break. You didn't know what you didn't know. Move past it and stay sober.
The only person I have control over is myself. I can't point a finger or blame others. They are mine and many times, especially in early recovery, I had a tendency to want to blame others for my anger.
At this early stage the focus should be on you and your recovery. Don't worry about what she is doing or not doing. Don't worry about what your friends are doing or not doing. Worry about what you are doing.