As far as finding ourselves goes, I am not so sure there is the standard of who we were really meant to be out there somewhere for us to discover, like some preordained thing. Some famous dead person said, "It is not a matter of finding ourselves. It is a matter of inventing ourselves." In addition I would say a poor plan is better than no plan. How about just making a little list and saying I want to do this. I want to be this. And then just go for it. If you need to re-evaluate it as time goes by, fine. There is a Bible verse: "Whatever your hand finds to do, do it." I think that we can come very close to chasing our true selves by simply looking into our hearts and just going from there.