" And the lies, oh my gosh!!! Sometimes I just want to ask him if he really thinks I am that STUPID!!!"
I have the same thoughts about my addicted son.
I'm glad to read that you're making progress in your own freedom. I'm sorry for your children for what they're also going through, but I congratulate you on opening up more and being honest before them. I wish you all well... your husband, too. I hope he finds a better life of sobriety in the future.