UTS,
Welcome, I am happy that you posted. It feels good to finally open up about the crazyness that is happening in your home. Glad you are reading and detaching. Sounds like you are open with your kids about you AH illness. The best thing you can do is take care of you and your 4 bautiful children. So they will grow up to be healthy and wonderful children.
See if you can find an alanon meeting or an alateen meeting. They are awesome to get some help that way. You can read the stickies and keep posting. Life does calm down once you realize that you can not help the A, but you can help yourself.
(((((((hugs my friend, you all will be ok))))))))))