I leave tomorrow to go get him. I guess, IMO, that if he comes back with a really crappy attitude and doesn't start working a program right away, and I mean RIGHT away...I'm just going to call it. I feel strong enough to ask him to leave. And granted I'm ASSUMING a lot here. I guess I don't really have the right to assume that he is going to be an jerkwad, but history generally repeats it'self unless he really has learned. But like fandy said yesterday.....he didn't seem to make a whole lot of progress in rehab. But that is between AH and his HP. I'm staying out of his progress. If it starts to effect me and the children, I will NOT mess around. Him and I BOTH know we are leaning more towards divorce at this point and neither of us are really resentful about it. It's just the way it is now and we both accept it. So if I see something I don't like or if I begin to feel unsafe, I will ask him to leave. I feel like I can stand firm in that resolve. I HAVE to. It's the only way to true freedom.