I always discussed with my daughters that there Dad was an A. I told them that they could have his DNA and they should stay away from drugs and alcohol. I feel because of that, my daughters 22 and 21, have stayed away. It is my biggest blessing that they are not addicts. These kids growing up in the crazy homes and they become crazy, its just what they know.
I spoke at an open AA meeting once and an A came up to me and told me that his parents were A's and they never "talked" about it. He said he thought it was great that I am open about their fathers disease with the kids.
Good luck with your little guy. He deserves peace and a loving home.