Originally Posted by
unsureoffuture 
What helped me was to focus on me. I started thinking of all the things I havent done that I would like to do. New beginnings.
^^^This, this, this.^^^^
I was devastated when I broke it off w/XABF, even though I knew I had no other choice. There were days when I just had to focus on breathing in and out, and I considered that a day well spent.
I started a ritual hike in my neighborhood, and there was a particular tree that reminded me of him. I would stop and touch the tree, and sometimes weep. Then march on. By the end of the hike, I always felt better.
And when I was ready, I re-started old hobbies - for me, music and writing - and I started saying yes to every invitation, no matter how lame (boring neighborhood xmas party) just to get out.
And little by little, it took at least 6 months, I started feeling like myself again.
Hang in there Jodie, you're going to be OK. If you are devoted to yourself, your life will become richer and happier than it ever was before.