Jodie,
I complained about my XAH out having a good time also. This is what a comment from an A said. I know I keep posting other peoples comments but they do help me go back and read them. Hope this helps.
He may be out every night with friends, but you are looking at this from the eyes of someone who is not addicted. He CANNOT see it from the perspective of missing you, home, or family; he had to choose his alcohol/drugs or family/relationships. He chose alcohol/drugs - because he believes he cannot live without them. That is the insanity of addiction, it is not about you or love or how much fun he is having now. He needs his DOC like he needs oxygen, this is what it is like to live as an addict or alcoholic.no lasting good will come from inviting him over for the night. Until you can move forward, you will be imprisoned by your past.