I keep hearing, "let the girlfriend give him the money." ... yikes, I'm one of the girlfriends (actually an x or somewhere in between). I am so worried about him asking He's tried and I always say "NO". Then, he goes to his XW (and they have a child together)and she gives it to him. I know it stresses her and as I observe this scenario, I see that I don't want to be in this position ever.
My condition, if we move forward, is not only to get in a program and get sober (and he knows this), but (and I haven't said this to him) also to never ask me for money. I've never borrowed money from others. I don't believe in asking others for money, even if you are a couple.