He has a job, a "friend" he has chosen over me and pays child support for two kids with his first wife. We are going to temporary hearing on friday for our two kids. He currently doesn't pay anything for them...NOTHING! At first I thought, "hell no", go ask your new girlfriend for money! Now, after my mind has settled, I feel bad for him. He can't get it together. He says he only has 20.00 to make it another week. I don't know what he does with it but I do know he NEVER budgets. Is this part of the financial mess he needs to learn how to deal with on his own or am I being insensative? Mind you, I could only afford to send 40.00 to him at this time. I don't want to enable either. Hell, I support me and my two kids ALONE! And in addition, he says he is not going to the temp hearing anymore on friday.