Don't. I mean, I'm not telling you what to FEEL -- I'm telling you (and you know this already so it's just a reminder) that addicts are really good at covering their tracks and lying. I mean, if I could live under the same roof with a guy for about a year without realizing he was an alcoholic... how on earth were you supposed to know what was going on with your AF???
Do the right thing, but don't blame yourself for not being a psychic. (((hugs)))
I know, I know. I lived with my XAH for two years before I put it all together.
It's just such a mindf***.