Cookies, thank you for your input. It is helpful. I think the point of everything I've heard, from everyones experiences, is that there is no right or wrong answer. So, I'm just going to take it one day at a time. What I should or shouldn't do I think will be revealed when it's time and I should just sit back and let it unfold. Just do my thing and he will make his mistakes, tho I wish he would embrace sobriety I know it may only come from many more mistakes and hardships -- if it comes at all. And I'm going to have to prayerfully be ok with that and keep moving my life forward.