Hi: You sound like a smart, brave young woman. I agree with the other posters. It is so wise of you to research this disease. In my current situation with my 22 year old son, is letting him go, and not to engage with him (and he is my son!)
In my opinion, you did answer your own question. You didn't sign up for this. Alcoholics are full of drama and manipulation. He will most likely drag you down, and suck the life out of you, it will be all about him. You hang in there. I had an ex alkie boyfriend, years ago, we had fun drinking, going out, etc. he claimed he loved me after 6 weeks, then I found out he had been married 3xs and had 2 DUIs, and was seeing another woman besides me. I was dumbfounded. I tried to "fix him." Well, it didn't work, and I thank God I moved on...now married to a wonderful man, who does not drink at all!!!