Thanks so much for your quick and thoughtful responses, I've been reading through the forum on and off all day and knew I'd come to the right place
Marie1960 you're absolutely right of course - it's quite difficult for me to accept that I have been lied to for so long. He had convinced himself that it wasn't lying, and tried to convince me of it too. He even said that he had told his mum to leave out details when we met.
I'm only 25, so I will get over this in time I'm sure. I think I just needed to hear what I've been thinking myself said back to me, if that makes sense?