I am sorry that you are experiencing this, retired. Alcoholism is truly a family affair, isn't it; its ripple effects are wide.
A drinking spouse adds another challenge in our own sobriety efforts but it is possible to achieve and maintain sobriety with a drinking spouse.
Continue to put your own sobriety first and do whatever you can to not be influenced bt your wife's behaviors. Do you have sober activities in which to engage outside the home? Do you volunteer in your community?
Stay close to SR. Have you thought of attending Alanon?