Originally Posted by leighqt;511531What is my part (4 column) [B
aids learning about self in the original poster point of view[/B]
Resent bf ignoring her, affects her self esteem, security, her part is not setting personal boundaries, being dishonest with both herself and him about her expectations (communication) it can then lead on to show what aspect of life present a reoccurring pattern if any, and has that in turn played a part in her drinking
Exactly. Chapter 6 " we have ascertained in a rough way what the trouble is. We have put our fingers on the weak items in our inventory. Now these are about to be cast out" next step......
Reading some of the earlier posts it is evident that many newcomers are sent away with the big book and some paper to do their fourth on their own. If that had happened to me, I wouldn't be alive now. I needed in depth help with my fourth. My sponsor worked with me for four hours, at the end of which we had what has turned out to be a perfectly adequate fourth step. The next day we took five and my spritual experience began, just as promised in the book.
If you are new and struggling, make your sponsor help you with this step. If they won't, find another sponsor. It is pretty well known that most of the people that come to AA and relapse never get a fourth step done. Your chances of recovery go up exponentially if you can get past this step, so It is worth insisting on getting the help you need with it.