Ugh, that's frustrating! They seem determined to cause a fight, to make the chaos inside their mind and body become part of everyone outside their mind. I never found a way to solve it, because the teen's goal seems to be an irrational determination to start a fight.
But, the one distant light is that they are in the process of change, and they will be different at 21 years old. (cold comfort during these years, i know :-/ )