Rah - I am sure it's going to get easier. I am sure he will come to see how well you are doing. Some things take some time.
You know you said you liked the lists that some of us made at New Years on what had changed? Could you make one, you don't have to post it, but share some of it with your OH? Why this is so important to you and what an alternative drinking life might lead to? What things used to be like?
Dancing is part of your posts often and I think your OH likes it? Do you enjoy dancing as well? Maybe there is something in that. Somewhere you could go together, but take the focus off drinking to do so? A compromise maybe? :-)
Keep going Rah - we're all in your corner!