I am so sorry to hear about your cat.
I get so irritated about the active Alcoholic/addict mentality that a little sex cures all ills.
Drunk,slobbering, disconnected intellectually and emotionally, reeking of BO and cigarettes works for some people, I guess. It quit working for me.
Of course, when I announced that I would not be engaging sexually any more, that immediately rendered me good for nothing in his eyes. Nice to know that at one time, I was good for SOMETHING!