Only those with Autistic children can understand the pain. I was told I have to mourn the loss of the child we thought we would have; and then hold dear the gift we have been given. We just have to stop killing ourselves by drinking every night. We must find another way.
For the Fathers out there with Autistic children you must also mourn the loss of the relationship you once had with your partner (wife). Don't give up and make it harder for her; support her and find attention from something (not someone) else. Be strong.