Ice hitting brick gives that satisfying crack without losing any good dishes.
I'm in agreement with the others - let your anger serve to motivate you to take action. You are completely justified in being mad. You don't deserve that kind of treatment (Who DOES THAT, anyway?!?). If your best friend or your daughter told you this story, what would you say to them? Dollars to donuts it wouldn't be, "You should just let that go, honey. It wasn't that big of a deal."