Originally Posted by
redatlanta 
To me its the perpetual roller coaster that gets old real quick. When drinking they are impossible. When Sober there is no dissuasion of the drinking phases because hey, they aren't drinking now! Then it is deflected on you, YOU who always has to stir up sh!t when everything is going just fine (aka "I'm not drinking now get off my back. Why do YOU always have to make things awful? Nothing will ever make YOU happy"). The A still driving the boat. Sober for a time, then drinking again. Never really doing anything to support the mental aspect of recovery or long term sobriety. Up down up down up down.
EXACTLY!
Thank you so much for this. Yes, it still comes back to being controlled by 'drunk AH' or 'not drinking AH', I wont say 'sober' as that isn't the right word.
All on the A's terms. Dictating what can and cannot be said. Still deflecting responsibility of their issues.
A whole load of lights have just gone on in my head.