I don't put my kids in the middle. I never have. I asked my adult son what he got because I know my AH won't be truthful about it. I don't really need to know what the others received because I know it was overboard.
I wish in vain for him to be a parent. That is my problem. It's like I have to be the parent and pretend he isn't really here and move on. Then he gets up in a chipper mood and asks what study we are doing next. He is oblivious no matter what I say or protest. There is just nothing right. We are going to be in the stinking poor house the way he spreads dough around.