Free,
Screw his "rules"--you do whatever you need to do for your own well-being. If you are to stay in this relationship, he can't be telling you what to do all the time. I'd suggest that might be an issue you want to take this time to explore--maybe with a DV counselor. Because you are one tough lady, and if he succeeds in isolating you and continuing to beat down your spirit, then having him "sober" is not going to be much of an improvement.
Hugs,